1. Your online dream girl backs out of a first date
YOUR FIRST MOVE
If her excuse sounds legit or she seems to have the jitters, it's worth going out on a limb: "Send her a message saying, 'I really think we should meet each other. How often do you find someone who has so much in common with you?' " says Engler. By emphasizing your potential as a match and not just the fact that you're attracted to her, you'll set yourself apart from the other dudes clamoring for her attention.