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Wedding And Engagement Ring Shaming Now A Thing

What ever happened to the saying "it's the thought that counts"? People are constantly being shamed on the internet and social media for things like their weight, breastfeeding pics, their jobs, lifestyle, etc. And now there's a new form of shaming that's becoming a trend and it's engagement/wedding ring shaming. 

Does the size of the ring really matter? Is your love for your spouse or fiancee measured by the amount of carats in the diamond? No and No! Although some would argue that a ring has to be a certain to size to acceptable.

Many moons ago I was a talk show host on a radio channel for women. I remember one of the biggest debates I had on the air with my listeners was over the size of the engagement ring. You wouldn't believe how many women would say no if the ring wasn't big enough.

Just an FYI, I've met plenty of women with giant rocks on their hands and guess what, they were cheated on, lied to, and are no longer married.

Why am I ranting about ring shaming? A Minnesota woman posted a photo of her wedding and engagement ring on Facebook back in February and the responses she received were a bit shocking. Many people including family and friends were asking her when there husband would be upgrading her "small ring" for something larger that fit more with their level of success and accomplishment in life...

You can see the rings in the pic below.

Yes, I know that my wedding ring is small ...

Rachel Pendersen decided to fire back at all those shaming her ring and had the best response for the haters.

"Yes, I know that my wedding ring is small. 

Friends and family often ask me when I'm going to have it "upgraded".... After all, it doesn't represent the level of success we are achieving. 

I've even had one person say "you could wear a bigger ring for important events, so people don't think you're not successful."

Wait a minute.... Since when did the size of someone's ring become an indication of success?!

For me, the ring is SO much more. 

My ring symbolizes a whirlwind, storybook, "make you sick" love story.... It reminds me of how my husband and I met and fell at in love in one night at a Perkin's diner. 

He worked as a window washer, and I was a single mother.

One short week later, and we professed our love to one another, him leading the conversation. 

We couldn't stop dreaming of our future, so excited to have a baby, buy a house, and fall asleep together every night.

We couldn't wait for the future. So we didn't.

13 days after meeting, we eloped. I didn't even THINK about a ring until my husband surprised me before the ceremony. He drained his savings to gift me with a small token of his love. 

I say small, only because it pales in comparison with how big his love is, even now, after years of marriage.

That, my friends, is success to me."

Any jerk can buy a ring that's huge and worth a pretty penny, but does that mean he truly loves you? If you think love is measured in clarity and carats...you are a very shallow person who needs a reality check.

Like I said, I know plenty of women who were given huge, beautiful rings that ended up being mistreated and are now divorced. Happiness and love aren't measured in material items like a ring.